When we lose somebody in our lives, it's easy to dwell on it because it can seem like we've lost that person completely. But I've found that there is another way to think about it, which means this isn't entirely true. I was watching Goodnight Mr. Tom earlier today and there's a quote near the end of the film where one of the main characters is talking about loss, which resonated with me. He says:
"Except I didn't lose them you see, not really, because they are still here, inside here *points at head* and always will be... and everything little thing you'll ever remember about (them) and that's something nobody can ever take away from you."
Although a person may no longer be in your life physically anymore, due to what ever reason, you still have a version of them with you: the things you did together, what they were like and the conversations you had. I still believe that everyone you meet and interact with has the ability to change you in some way and that change can't be taken away. The impact that they made on you still remains even when they're gone. Perhaps that's the best thing to take away from losing somebody, along with the fact that you had the opportunity to know them and be part of who they were too.
Laura.
Song: All You Had to do Was Stay by Taylor Swift
